What Does Being Gentle with Yourself Look Like, Especially When You’re Struggling?
The intuitive, heart-guided woman recognizes the importance of being gentle with herself when she’s struggling, though this can still be difficult to do. At such times, she longs to show herself compassion and gentleness. Yet how does she do this? What does being gentle with yourself look like, especially when you’re struggling?
An intuitive woman deeply welcomes the truth that she’s always had a gentle heart. Somewhere along her life journey, she may have become less connected to her innate gentleness, but it’s still there; it hasn’t gone away. Knowing she can access this inherent gentleness whenever she needs allows her to tap into it more quickly.
At any time, she can connect with the gentleness within herself. This might look like allowing herself to feel any and all of her feelings, whatever the situation she finds herself in. She, then, observes those feelings without judgement. She can even validate the feelings by reminding herself that they’re okay to feel, that they make sense to feel. Her feelings are understandable.
Being gentle with herself also looks like viewing all parts of herself with gentleness. Even, and especially, the parts she doesn’t like or wish would go away. She is allowed to treat every part of her lovingly and gently.
When she’s struggling, responding to herself from a place of gentleness can still be hard. This makes sense. If she’s already feeling overwhelmed, stressed, sad, anxious, or angry, connecting with her innately gentle heart may take some time. And that’s okay. Even if it’s after those first initial moments or minutes of struggle, she can always return to that gentleness.
Responding to herself gently during times of struggle can, first and foremost, look like talking to herself as if she were speaking to a much younger version of herself. She can tell her younger self that she loves her; she’s proud of her; that what she’s going through is understandably hard.
She can also tell her younger self that she’s doing a great job as she recognizes any of the ways she’s taking care of herself: getting a snack, prioritizing a nap, allowing herself to cry, speaking up, getting some fresh air. Any act of self-care can be celebrated.
Another way she can be gentle with herself when she’s struggling is to find ways to do less. She can allow for slowing down and resting, knowing that this doesn’t change her innate worth and trusting that when she’s ready she’ll be able to do more.
Being gentle with yourself is possible. During times of struggle, it may take more time to tap into that gentleness, and that’s all right. The intuitive, heart-guided woman can continue to show herself compassion and gentleness, especially as she remembers that she is already enough and doing her best.
